How to Ask for Her IM/Phone Number in No Time Without Scaring Her Off
Once you send out an email to a woman on a cheater dating site, the goal should be to get her into an IM or SMS discussion as quickly as possible. If you’re unable to accomplish this, you’ll never get a date. No one likes to trade emails back and forth. You send her one email and you get her digits and/or IM name (Yahoo!, Google Talk, MSN, etc.).
Online dating is a snooze you lose game. If you’re the guy that insists on trading emails for a while before exchanging digits/IM, you’ll never get anywhere with women online. Yes, we understand your need for privacy since you’re married. But so is she. You need to understand that you’re not the only one emailing her. Far from it. She probably has 50 other guys sending her emails. The guys that catch her interest AND have the balls to ask for her digits are the ones that end up getting dates and getting laid.
Getting her to have a conversation with you starts with a simple question…
All you have to do is end your initial email with a simple question asking her if she’d like to chat via IM. You should ALWAYS chat with her via IM first before getting digits. If this were a traditional dating site it would be completely different. But you need to check her out first to make sure she’s legit since you’re married. Always have to be safe.
Asking for an IM chat requires absolutely no smooth talking. No need to be a slick Pickup Artist here. A simple, “care to chat this evening?” is plenty good. The goal of that first email is just to get her to chat with you via IM. Once you have her on IM it’s up to you to impress her. Take a look at our last lesson about flirting over IM/SMS for information on how to impress married women during an IM/SMS conversation.
If you are too upfront when asking for her digits you will scare her away…
After you’ve been chatting with her for a bit on IM, you can try to get her digits. Remember, she’s married so she might be hesitant. Don’t be pushy. Be understanding. Assure her you’re trustworthy by being friendly throughout your conversation.
So when should you ask for her digits? We suggest you wait at least an hour. Perhaps longer if the conversation isn’t going so great. However, most of the time, if she’s still talking to you after an hour she’s interested in you. If she wasn’t, she would have ignored you long before. So if you’ve made it to the hour point and she’s still showing interest in you, simply ask her if she’d like to continue this conversation on the phone.