Just like men, women are highly sexual beings; however, expectations of society repress them to act on their sexual needs and fantasies. Even in marriage, women are expected to play roles subordinate to men. In many aspects, men enjoy greater power and dominance. Even in bed, it is assumed that women should meet their husbands’ needs, satisfy their sexual cravings, and feed their fantasies.
Just as men grow dissatisfied with their sex lives and cheat on their wives, women can also look for sexual satisfaction outside of marriage. We hear of women being caught in bed with another man by their husbands coming home from work. Exactly what pushes married women to engage in an adulterous affair? And what is it about having casual sex with a stranger that drives women wild than they are with their husbands?
Married women have repressed needs
As mentioned earlier, many women have accumulated unfilled sexual needs over those long years of marriage. These women were always expected to play the role of a follower than a leader. They were never given the chance to take the steering wheel in terms of sexual expression. They might have a lot of creative sexual curiosities and fantasies which were never given expression because they were probably too ashamed. They might also be too scared that their sexual energies might infringe on their husbands’ ego.
These ccc only give voice in an adulterous affair with a stranger because women feel liberated to express their sexuality without being judged or criticized. The lack of attachment and commitment allows women to experiment and to explore their sexuality. In this open atmosphere, they are able to do things that they have never even tried with their husbands. These women will go even as far as engaging in sadomasochistic sex and other sexual deviances where they are given a certain amount of command and control.
Women are bored by the monotony of married sex life
The long years of marriage sometimes take a toll on a couple’s sex life. The man might be too busy with work that he sometimes fails to fulfil his obligations in bed. The woman, on the other hand, has simply lost confidence in herself as she feels the years have demoted her from the role of a queen to a poor house help overborne with household duties and looking after the kids. She might also feel ugly about herself after accumulating several pounds over the years. On top of it all, she might feel imprisoned by the dullness and blandness of sex which was reduced to a predictable routine.
The prospect of getting laid by a stranger brings about a refreshing change to a discontented wife. She is surprised and secretly elated that after all those years a man would still find her sexually attractive. She swoons by the sudden shower of compliments. Moreover, it is only with a stranger that she enjoys freedom from her suffocating role as a wife and mother. At long last, she remembers how it feels to just be a woman who is able to attend to herself and her needs and able to do what she wants.
With a total stranger, a woman can simply let everything loose in bed; she is able to overcome all inhibitions in sex. A stranger can bring in fresh energy and variety that she has always secretly wished for.
The reality of the situation begins to set in
Cheating wives will always have at the back of their minds the impermanence of their illicit affairs with a stranger. They know that at any moment their promiscuous relationship might come to its end. This is why they feel the need to make the most of every minute. Every meet-up leads to passionate sex like they never had before. A woman will even succumb to multiple sex with a stranger at one time. She will drown and lose herself in crazy sex, afraid that it could be the last.
Moreover, a woman will give all she’s got in bed, eager to satisfy herself and at the same time keep his lover. She will do her best to ensure that whatever happens the man will keep coming back to her.
A woman should never be outrightly condemned for sleeping with a stranger. There must be surrounding circumstances for her to betray her spouse. In many cases, it is more complicated than sheer promiscuity. These times she cannot take the blame for enjoying wild and passionate sex with a stranger.