When you are engaging in a secret love affair, one of the most important factors is keeping your affair a secret from your spouse or girlfriend. Whether you are married or have children, the privacy of your relationship with your mistress is the key to ensuring a stable and secure life with your family.
But what if for some reason your mistress has started threatening you to expose your cheating activities? Perhaps it is because of a recent argument you had, or there is something she wants you to do and is using this method as a threat to make sure you follow her expectations. Either way, this can lead to unpleasant outcomes if you don’t know how to handle the situation effectively. So here are some a few helpful solutions you can follow in order to resolve the matter before anyone gets hurt.
What to do if your mistress threatens to expose your cheating activities?
1. Find out what your mistress wants and try to reach an agreement
There must be a reason why your mistress has suddenly started threatening you. Is there something she wants? Perhaps it is a simple need for more love and affection, and she is channeling her frustration of feeling ignored to threaten to expose your activities. Or it could be that she is tired of keeping your love affair a secret and wants you to leave your wife and be with her.
In some cases, it is also possible that your mistress is using this approach to encourage you to buy her more gifts or spend more money pleasing her. Whatever the reason is, it is important to find out. You can simply ask her directly or use your instincts to guess what the real reason behind her threats is.
Now if what she wants is something you can possibly provide for her, then the rest is simple. You will reach an agreement and everything will be fine. But what if what she wants is something you cannot provide? It could be that your mistress wants you to leave your wife and children to marry her instead. Or she may want a large sum of money in order to stop the threats. In that case, you can follow the next few suggestions as a solution.
2. Use an unfair advantage to motivate her to stay quiet
When an affair comes to the terms where one partner threatens the other with unreasonable expectations, it is an announcement of a war. And as the saying goes, “All is fair in love and war.” So now it is the time to find an unfair advantage to turn the tables and gain a winning advantage.
Since you know your mistress for quite some time, there might be some secrets that you know about her that she doesn’t want anyone else to find out. So since she is threatening to expose you, you can also do the same in all fairness and threaten to reveal those secrets to her family, friends or colleagues. You can also threaten to leave her, so she knows even if she ruins your family life and happiness, she can never have you for herself again. Using this approach might encourage your mistress to stay quiet and keep your affair a secret.
3. Be the first one to share it with your spouse
If the above method does not work and your mistress still insists on exposing your cheating activities, there is only one solution left. You need to come clean with your spouse – before your mistress is the one revealing it to her. Because although it won’t be pleasant for your wife to hear the truth, she will get more upset and hurt if the other woman is the one spilling the beans.
But if your wife notices that her husband has come to her and tells the truth with an honest and heartfelt attitude, she will find it easier in her heart to consider forgiveness and staying with you. Because the worst part about finding out about a cheating spouse, is the trust that has been destroyed. So by admitting the truth to her yourself, you can at least restore the trust and get a second chance at keeping your relationship alive.
As the famous saying goes, prevention is always the best cure. So it is important to be careful and have full control over your love affairs, knowing your mistress is someone who is mature and wise enough not to play the game of threat to expose your secret affair. Because if she has the tendency to threaten you, it will simply be a matter of time when things will get more risky and you may have to face a scandal within your family.