We all know that cheating sucks. But why do men do it in the first place? The reasons may be quite shocking sometimes. The truth of the matter is that everyone is different when it comes to cheating, and everyone cheats for different reasons. One thing is common to all; when you ‘cheat’ you don’t want to be found out. There are no real excuses for cheating though we often try to make one. There are however many reasons that can explain this behavior. Without further ado, here is a list of the top reasons for cheating in 2013.
His wandering genes
Apart from our superior intelligence and a small fraction of DNA uniqueness, humans are otherwise no different from other mammals. Of course we don’t walk on four feet, but there are some common instinctive urges between us. By nature men will often wander for no reason but because they feel the need to. Instinctively, he wants to spread his seed to safeguard the survival of his genetic heirloom. Men however have the ability and intelligence to control the urges of his brain- unlike other animals. But even when he tries to take control, sometimes his desires overwhelm his will to be faithful.
There’s no love in the relationship
Occasionally the relationship loses the spark it had many years (or months) before. People can grow out of love for each other and this is a major reason for infidelity. There is no time limit for this to happen. People are so complicated and materialistic these days that you can literally hate each other even after several months of marriage. If a man cannot find love at home, he’s almost guaranteed to look elsewhere.
Her behavior has changed
Women’s behavior change for various reasons. It could be due to having the responsibility of children, the pressures of home and work, hormonal changes or changes in health. They may become more irritable, less vivacious during sex, more argumentative, more controlling than before. Generally, men do not like drastic ‘negative’ changes in their women. To them, she is different from the woman he once knew. Men will find other mates with desirable characteristics.
To get more attention
There are times when cheating isn’t just about sex. Men can cheat to get more affection and attention than he is getting at home. Just like women need love and affection, so do men. When he cannot get this at home, he looks elsewhere.
To get out of the daily routine
From home to work and back every single day, doing a few personal chores, watching television, then maybe have sex with the wife if she doesn’t have a headache. Doing this routine every day and every year, can get very boring for a man. Some men get too comfortable with their living situation and decide that it’s time for a change in routine. They might take on a new mistress and add some more action to their life.
He’s not getting much or any sex at all
We all know that a man chooses to be in a committed relationship with a woman not only for friendship but also for intimate satisfaction. Sex plays an integral part in committed relationships. Unfortunately, he may not get this satisfaction efficiently after a while. Maybe things are just too comfortable or too complicated. Whatever their cause, men need an emotionally fulfilling relationship. If the relationship gets to a point where it has become sexually inadequate, it can be extremely frustrating for him. Cheating is almost always the best alternative for meeting his sexual needs.
Trying to prove his manhood
After being in a steady relationship for a while, some men feel the need to take on new challenges. The challenge is a different woman of course. He wants to know that he’s still got the ability to please a woman that is probably much younger than he is. He knows that his wife will accept him however he presents himself during sex, and she might not complain about his performance either. They are both quite comfortable and accepting of each other. Sometimes men cheat not because of sex, but because they want to know that they are still very desirable and possess the ability to please other women in bed.
Revenge for being cheated on
An eye for an eye is it? This is certainly a reason for cheating for some men, and it may seem pretty immature to some people. It is probably useless trying to prove a point. The mature thing to do is probably to end the relationship or seek counseling. On the other hand, if the man simply loves his wife too much and prefers not to end the relationship, he might feel that he can prove a point to her by cheating. Doing will surely do no good for the relationship. In fact, things could get much worse.
There are possibly many other reasons and excuses for cheating, but these are some of the most popular reasons. He is in a situation that he does not necessarily wish to be in and will try to rationalize his reasons for being so. Before you consider cheating, know that infidelity can cause a mountain of problems. The best thing to do is to seek advice and see if there are ways of resolving relationship problems. Otherwise just get out of the relationship.