As a couple, you have been together for some time. The whole caboodle seems to be predominantly smooth sailing. You have your good moments and as anticipated, you have your bad times. With everything considered, you are fine with where your connection presently stands, expecting the relationship to break through and be all you have anticipated for it to be. However, one day, you found out that your bedfellow is a double crosser – you had suspicions but was not sure, had signs but just shrugged your shoulders, or perhaps you never saw it coming. Whatever it is, the truth remains that your partner cheated on you, leaving you shattered and distressed. The individual who you believed to respect you in this relationship had been disloyal. Upset, filled with melancholia and despondency, and severely injured soul, how can you turn the corner and get better from such blow? Does forgiving your partner and forgetting it ever happened can mend your relationship? Will you just let go or giving a taste of her own medicine can perhaps be the only cure?
Is it worth it?
Playing his game with a guilt trip surely will wound her, puts her in your shoes when she was the one who betrayed you. Perfectly planning your revenge as you stroke your chin and flashing a crooked smile certainly is an express karma to be served in a gold platter. Yet, is it worth it? Whether it is some sort of conspiracy or tripping someone to fall in your trap does not make the situation any better because YOU WILL BE JUST EXACTLY LIKE HER. You want that? Cheating on your partner as vengeance is not a mature thing to do. You are not Chuck Bass and this is not the Gossip Girl series. Cheating on your partner and then what? You will only wound her instead of paving a change of heart and you’ll destroy your self-reliance. Yes, the control is in your hands; use it to forgive and let go. The faster you do that, the faster you can move on with or without that person.
It will not save you from grief and shame
You’ve had your fair share of heartache and disgrace; don’t let your retribution bury your boots in deep shit instead of cleaning it. Was there any moment that you blame yourself for maybe you had done something in order for her to cheat on you? If you do, well it’s normal. Your relationship could be lacking an ingredient or there was something that both of you failed to reconcile. Directing the problem to you is inevitable but as much as possible, don’t. Cut some slack and forgive yourself too. Coming out of devastation and misery is not something you can force to go away – it takes time. Start over with a clean slate by loving yourself more than ever. Remember all the great qualities you possess and go back to your previous state before the betrayal happened. Surround yourself with long-time friends to remind you how happy you were before. Carry on with your values and don’t attempt to cross the line of wasting them by some requital you both don’t deserve.
She is not perfect and you aren’t either
It’s a cliché but yes, people are imperfect. Be that as it may, it does not give anyone the responsibility for others’ decisions. Be forbearing to yourself because it’s not your fault. Bear in mind that cheating was never about you; it’s in the past and there is nothing you can do to change it. If you feel that it is a relationship worth saving, then you have to work on it and communicate with your partner because despite the fact that you cannot change it, you should not dismiss it too. The issue needs to be addressed in order to progress.
Most of all, you are worthy of being solely loved and you don’t have to settle for anything less. Taking the path to revenge is the lowest degree. Opting for the better is a lot of work; nobody said it was easy but it will be worth your while to just focus on loving yourself even more. Ditch the scheming; it’s a game that children play. Life is too short to wallow in the stuff that is out of your hands. The best thing you could do is to change for the better and move on. You can always have a better life with or without your partner.