There are several reasons why men cheat on their partner. You may wonder how the affair happened. You thought you were a good lover and you never realized he would do such an illicit thing. It is not advisable to jump into any conclusions; understanding the different types of infidelity will help you figure out why your relationship broke down.
Not every affair is the same because they happen for various reasons. It might be too painful to dig deeper behind the reason of your partner’s infidelity but it would be beneficial for you to know the real reason so you’ll learn how to deal with it eventually.
An opportunity for a one-night stand
This type of affair is normally a one-time thing. It’s hard to find evidence for this since the affair just lasts for a short span of time. One-night stands are not an attempt to have some intimacy with another woman rather they are just self-serving. Sex can be passionate but usually emotionless. Men who get involved in one-night stand do not have plans for a divorce rather they are just enticed by the opportunity for intimate sex.
This affair happens when all the present circumstances are in the perfect place. You met an attractive girl and spend some time in a bar drinking with her. The enticing moment and the rising temperature in your body can all add up to a one-night stand. Men might engage in it since they are confident that their wife will never find out and they want to feel the thrill and excitement of the short affair.
The loss of romantic feelings
You’ve accidentally read a text message to your spouse from someone saying sweet nothings. You also notice him spending most of his time calling and whenever you ask him who he was talking to, he suddenly gets defensive. If you’ll rely on your natural instinct, it will tell you that your husband is having an affair.
When your spouse met someone attractive and he felt deep feelings of love with. This would drive them into illicit affairs for what they believe is love. They felt that their love for their mistress is even more romantic than what they feel for their spouse. If they got caught by their wife eventually, they would rather choose their mistress than their legal spouse.
They would say words like “I don’t love you anymore”, this ultimately means that they already lost the romantic feelings they felt for their spouse at the beginning of their relationship.
Just for the purpose of revenge
Getting into an affair just to get revenge on the spouse is an illogical and childish act. Although there are men who believe that having an illicit affair is an equal punishment to their wife who cheated on them. Men want to punish their spouse to make them feel the exact pain they felt. However, there are also husbands who are just unhappy with their marriage and they feel like their partner is not doing anything to fix the issues in their relationship. They thought that having an affair with someone else would be great revenge to show their spouse the mistakes happening in their marriage.
Driven by uncontrollable sexual addiction
Sex is an effective anti-depressant for many men. People who lack sex or unsatisfied with it try to seek satisfaction from others. When women were not able to give adequate time for intimacy with their partner, men in return crave for such passionate moments. This sexual urge that men feel can be fulfilled by some girls who are daring and adventurous, this would eventually lead to an illicit affair. However, there are also cases wherein men just seek for sexual varieties even though they were totally satisfied and happy with their spouse. They like to experience the enjoyment of having different partners in bed.