The rainbow along with the rain
Notice that she is being extra nice to you even with your unfinished argument. In psychology, it is a defense mechanism in which a person tries to “undo” a detrimental behavior by engaging in counter behavior. For some people, undoing can be used to lessen cognitive dissonance or the distressed feeling formed when a behavior and action or two behaviors are in dispute with one another. Your woman is feeling guilty because she is cheating on you (that’s one) yet she feels elated after spending some time with her boy toy (that’s the other behavior) resulting in positive emotions overpowering the negative ones. The positive emotions can be utilized to rectify the aftermath of the negative emotions (can also be your unfinished argument). Generally, people may radiate the result of their positive emotions to compensate the consequences of their negative emotions. So, people being extra nice to you should freak you out sometimes.
Where is the love?
Eighty percent of her time previously was spent on you but a sudden swerve in her priorities gives a weird feeling of either a response to your negligence of her emotions or she is directing it now to someone else. No more brunch implied on Sundays or movies on Fridays, she misses to leave you a note (which you were incessantly ignoring and hell, you miss it), and frequent rain checks on your supposed activity (when you were actually the one who does it often). This kind of behavior is inevitable especially when you tend to disregard your partner’s fondness of simply caring for you. Check for yourself; this could be a backfire on your ways too.
She is nowhere to be found
She has been missing in action these past few days and your partner won’t tell what she has been up to, claiming to have little time for any activities with you but unfailingly runs faster than a horse once one of her friends invites her out. She could be really out with her friend or with her “friend with benefits” – something you can’t really tell because her whereabouts are vague at best and sadly, you are the last to know. Revealing her schedule to you at the eleventh hour and missing your plans in the course can signify a lot of things, one of which is that she is really not failing to remember but preferably dropping you out.
She has become an internet junkie
Don’t entertain the feeling of relief just because she is staying at home and not somewhere else she won’t disclose to you. Yes, you love her presence but her incessant browsing of internet through her phone or her computer is a red flag — she is up to something hideous. The ease of chat, messages, and emails has caused a horrifying height in emotional affairs. Snooping around might not be helpful as it can spark the truth you are not ready to deal with.
Dry as the Sahara Desert
In your budding relationship, you and your partner were entirely passionate and receptive to unpremeditated lovemaking. However, for the past few days or weeks, it’s all a tad scarce and you both do it, only if she feels like doing it. She could be fed up with your usual antics in bed. Infidelity may be inappropriate but you can’t refute that illicit sex is, for the most part, more invigorating. Hence, if you no longer gratify her sexual desires, there could be someone who is rubbing her the right way.
Trying hard dismissing your gut feeling just frequents the thought that she could be cheating. However, no matter how wicked and depressing the thought that your partner is catering to infidelity, some women do it, including her. No man desires to fall in love for a woman devotedly only to discover she is cheating on him. Life sometimes gives you the shock that can never recover from – the stupefied guy being cheated on however committed and devoted you have been to her.