“Unpin that spangled breastplate which you wear, that the eyes of busy fools may be stopped there. Unlace yourself for that harmonious chime, tells me from you that now it is bedtime.” – John Donne, To His Mistress Going to Bed.
The prime reason why you are cheating is because there are things that lack in your marriage and there can’t seem to be a way to talk it over and work it out. Hence, here you are living an extramarital affair with this one hot piece outlet of your sexual desire. You may say that your mistress makes love to you differently, gives you a better perception and disposition because she makes you feel loved, wanted, and appreciated. Your emotional connection to your wife induces detrimental effects on your sexual relationship due to unresolved issues in your marriage that you both shrug off your shoulders, creating a better sexual relationship with your mistress because your connection is still a clean slate.
You want to make love to your mistress in a different way, something that is completely different than what you do with your wife (because it’s a shame to say the wrong name) but you have no idea? Below are the three things you can do in bed with your mistress that will surely make the difference exactly you are looking for.
Enter- third wheel
Your lover can’t be more conservative than your wife knowing where she stands now. Every legit or betraying couple often enters into this kind of enticing sexual act. What can be more exciting than three, four, or more mouths and pairs of hands all gathered for a sexual ritual? It creates an utterly new definition to ménage a trois. It can be ménage a quartre or cinc – the possibilities are endless. A man can dream! It will take place like the usual drill yet tad erotic and pleasurable (two or more mouths, imagine?). However, this setup can make your mistress a little uncomfortable after your sexual soiree. She may worry about the probability of you seeing the “third party” – the feeling is inevitable. Well. It’s your call now. You know how this game is played.
Toys for the big boys (and girls too)
Your wife may not be radical in bed as you want her to be, could be the reason why you would rather practice illicit sexual acts with your mistress. As luck would have it, your mistress likes the sex toys, augmenting both your sexual desires more than ever. All those edible undies, chocolate paints, floggers, shackles, butt plug – you can spend all night taking endless pleasure. Sex toys do not just amplify the intensity of one’s climax; it also increases the desire through anticipation and delayed gratification that Sigmund Freud can very well justify.
Get nice and tight
Perhaps your wife is the daughter of Hitler who loves to dominate the “yes, madam” submissive in you so you got yourself your own passive and obedient partner to take her anywhere, anytime, and anyhow you want. If bondage is what you want, then bondage is what you will readily get. Fix your mistress to the headboard or suspend her hands in the shower just to keep her in place so you can exploit her impuissance.
There is going to be a huge difference between the actualities of an individual versus the fantasy impression that might be hurled. To put it differently, a spouse sees vividly the “real” you and not necessarily buy into the “mercurial” or “misconstrued” façade that many want to take a role of. Actually, the charm of the mistress or the affair is to satisfy the male flight of fancy, where the everyday reality of indeed having to “pull through” can be neglected.
The real predicament is sometimes, the notion of “cheating” is basically a one-way street. A man cheating on his wife could be emotionally dissatisfied and he needs someone to displace his emotions, hence, the mistress. There may be issues about sex and how lucky some mistresses are to be the focal points of desire.