With the current popularity of sexually-driven books like 50 Shades of Gray and graphic television series like Game of Thrones and various movies that increase libido to the nth level, men are provided with bountiful bedtime ideas which they sometime execute outside their current relationship. It seems that the need for more excitement no longer emanates from the four corners of their abode. Dissatisfaction and frustration are two known reasons why men stray from their partners. But there is more to the psychological and physiological aspects of infidelity that drives men to cheat. A completely complex issue that has no clear-cut design, here are some of the common issues that men have to face leading them to cheat and, with or without remorse, bound to do it over and over again.
The Downside of Emotional and Sexual Displeasure
Of course, sex has always been the greatest motivator of a relationship. But like eating the same food over and over again can over saturate your taste buds so does your libido over the same position or with the same partner in the same room right at the same hour of the day. Boredom is a huge culprit in most cheating cases. Doing the same routine can substantially reduce orgasmic pleasures making a wife tastes like a bland dish that has been reheated repeatedly. It does not even matter anymore if she looks as hot as Jennifer Aniston or Kate Upton. There is something about over-familiarity that drives most husbands to deviate from the normal course of things and engage in more exhilarating activities.
This could be because men love excitement and usually experiment this through sexually-driven activities. As mentioned, sex is a vital part of a relationship and dissatisfaction in both emotional and sexual aspect usually go hand-in-hand. Some men find certain routines in marriage to be dull and dreary. Monotonous relationships have ups-and-downs but when one is counting years, the languor can be too debilitating leading husbands to seek out adrenaline-pumping pursuits which often lead to cheating.
When Getting Even Feels Good
Another controversial aspect of cheating is when men do it to settle scores. Men are often egotistical and being cheated by their wives can create a huge chasm in their psyche that leads them to do irrational things. They need to give their bruised ego a pat on the shoulders and one best way to do it is to get even. What it means by getting even is to engage in multiple relationships themselves. Some engage in one-night stands or cybersex. There are also others who do the deed with co-workers or even among close circle of friends. The sad part is that, men who have been cheated upon can be quite blatant in their actions. They would brandish their actions to their partners to show that they, too, can do it. In most cases, this happens to husbands who cannot find it in themselves to trust or forgive their wives. Unfortunately, these cases can easily blow out of proportion and result to divorce or breakup most of the time.
Aside from cheating through sex, husbands sometimes feel embittered when their wives are busy with their own lives. Some would feel cheated being left behind because of work reasons or even in looking after family members. This is even more so when both are working in the same company and the wife got promoted to a higher rank. The same can also be said when a partner’s business thrives while his business took a turn for the worse. Most men being egoistic in nature has a need to be superior of being in control. Feeling like the aggrieved party, this resentfulness drives some of them to indulge in unfaithful liaisons.
The Need to Feel Needed
Of course, the need to feel needed is another integral part that drives human nature. As a relationship grows older, the need to be appreciated in what they do increases through time. But wives have to take care of kids, of household chores, or of ailing parents or in-laws. There is so much going in at home or at work that some husbands felt they are no longer their partners’ center of the universe. When they feel like an outcast in a relationship, the need to seek out another who hangs into their every word and action will make them feel special and more valued. Just like being in a new relationship, the sudden surge of attention plus the adrenaline rush of doing something forbidden can be intoxicating.
Indeed, there are 1001 reasons why husbands cheat on their wives and another 1001 reasons on why there is a high chance that they would do it again. The need for excitement, appreciation and attention are some of the driving forces that cause a huge rift in most marriages. Add up raging hormones to the equation plus the ease of finding one to satisfy such guilty pleasures and you are in deep trouble that might ultimately put a lid on marital bliss.